Popular Self-Care Tip Posts

Woman stressed and frustratedHave you ever spent hours jumping from one web link to another trying to gather relevant self-care tip posts only to find yourself in a maze of information overload?

I have and I know just how time-consuming and frustrating that can be.

Don’t you sometimes wish you had a handy reference guide put together with several articles about your specific search topic all in one place?

Now you do…

Periodically I will publish a list of previously posted popular self-care tips and strategies that I’ve rounded up from various sources on the web to make it easier for you to get self-care tips and more all in one place.   Here’s the list:

15 Self-Care Tips for Anyone Who Works Too Much
Nichole Liloia on MindBodyGreen
Choose from these 15 self-care tips to make self-care a part of your regular practice so that you feel good about taking care of yourself (and you get a break from your work!).

The Absolute Worst Things To Do When You’re Stressed Out
Jena Pincott on Oprah.com
When life comes at you fast and furious, the last thing you want to do is make things even harder on yourself. Start by avoiding these 8 stress  traps

Girl on a Ledge – Moving Past Your Fears 
Marisa Leighon on Huffington Post
Girl on a ledge describes perfectly that feeling we have when fear keeps us stuck in the same old patterns, trying to decide how to make the transition from fearful to courageous.

How to Build Self Confidence
Zorka Hereford on Essential Life Skill.net
How we see ourselves is more important than how anyone else sees us. If we don’t work at loving and accepting ourselves, nothing anyone else thinks matters.

Four Ways to Deal With Stress
Posted by the American Heart Association
Use these four simple techniques to combat stress

How Fear Keeps us Stuck (and what to do about it) – Posted on Unstuck.com
9 tips to help you get unstuck and move past the fear

What’s in Your Tool Kit?
Posted on CoachforYourDreams.com/blog
Just as you use physical tools to complete tasks and projects, you also have tools that help you maintain your self-care. To stay organized, focused, accountable and inspired, use these tools from your self-care tool kit.

If you enjoyed these popular self-care tip posts, please leave a comment to let me know what resonates with you and what other topic you would like me to pull together for you.

In the meantime, for more self-care tips and insights, I invite you to check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You

The Power of Quiet Time

Park benchMost of us don’t have quiet time. We’re usually too busy to sit quietly for even a minute. We certainly don’t believe we deserve a space of our own in which to go within to replenish our energy.

In the book, A Room of One’s Own, Virginia Woolf refers to a woman needing a quiet space of her own to write. I doubt if Woolf could have envisioned the hectic lives most women live today. Whether we apply it to writing or other areas of our lives, Woolf’s message is still relevant. We all need some quiet time and a space to reflect and reclaim a sense of well-being.

Some of us manage to build quiet time into our busy days but others constantly complain about a lack of time.

Most often, it’s not time we lack but rather, we regret forfeiting quiet time to reflect, re-center and regain a sense of well-being. Quiet time helps us to unwind from our daily stressors, engage in an activity we enjoy or just sit quietly to replenish our energy.

When I don’t build some quiet time into my day, it seems as though I’m on a merry-go-round – going nowhere fast. But when I make it a point to schedule some quiet time into my day, my life doesn’t seem quite so hectic.

There’s a reason why hospitals advocate for quietness. It’s so patients can restore their strength and regain health. You don’t have to be in a hospital to regain your strength and reclaim a sense of well-being.

Instead, use these power of quiet time tips to reflect and re-center yourself:

Request some quiet time if you live in a “busy’ household. I’ve found that often a request is all that is needed to get what you want. Rarely will your request be denied. And even if it is, you must take charge of your life by having the courage to do what is best for you.

Make space for yourself away from everyone else. A busy mother once told me that her quiet time was a relaxing bubble bath at the end of her day. She taught her family not to disturb her during this time.

Take a walk around your neighborhood for 15-20 minutes. I often find a short walk alone quiets my mind and re-energizes me.

Spend quality time with others. Most couples know that in order to stay connected and strengthen their relationship they must spend quality time together, focused on each other. Spending quality time with those you care about means listening and giving that person your undivided attention. You can’t give another person your undivided attention when you are busy checking email, texting or thinking about your next project.

Listen to soothing music. Music is a natural relaxant and reduces stress.

For more tips and insights like these, I invite you to check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You

Light my Fire

4th_July fireworksTalk about “light my fire”! I recently participated in a riveting 30-day challenge – “Reclaim Your Sass” – with awesome, Jennifer Boykin. I was faced head on with the reality of my fears, self-doubt and indecisiveness in a most gentle, caring authentic way that resonated deep within me. I usually shy away from these kinds of challenges because I get bored, think they are too hokey or require more time and energy than I’m willing to invest but something about this challenge peaked my interest.

I had already started the process of probing deeply into my fears and transparency,  which I shared with you in an earlier post.  So Jennifer’s challenge resonated with me in a profound way.

I completed the 30-day challenge on Sunday and  this Fourth of July weekend reminds me to light my fire and get on with the business of living fearlessly, joyfully and authentically.

Here in the USA, the Fourth of July is celebrated with sparkling fireworks, parades, grills fired up to cook our favorite barbecue and reconnecting with family and friends.  And, it keeping with the theme of fire(works), I thought this would be a good time for me to light my fire so I can sparkle and turn that smoldering flame into my own personal fireworks.

Do you need to light your fire?

If you are willing to light your fire like  fireworks decorating the sky on the Fourth of July, here are some tips to ignite you:

1. Rescue your sparkle – your sparkle is not gone, you just need to reach deep inside to reclaim it. Could it be it’s concealed under layers of self-doubt? If so, let’s start today peeling away just one layer.

2.Turn up the heat – If you cook, you know that the higher the heat the more of a risk you have of burning your food. The same principle applies when we move at record speed with no down time for self-care. It leaves us susceptible to burnout and fatigue. Perhaps starting a morning or evening ritual such as a brisk walk or quiet time will help reduce the chance of burnout.

3. Sing your praises – It’s not conceited or arrogant to honor your accomplishments. In other words, pat yourself on the back when you complete a specific undertaking.

If this post rings a bell for you, please take a moment to connect with us by sharing your comments, reactions or questions.

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY!!!

Escape the Responsibility Trap

Are you feeling confused, trapped and overwhelmed by the seemingly endless “responsibility trap” that zaps your time and energy?

Have you ever found yourself saying?

“I don’t have time for me”

“I have to take care of everything or it won’t get done”

“I feel guilty when I say “no”

“Something or someone always gets in the way of me taking time for myself”

If you’ve said or thought any of the above, you are not alone!

Our lives become unmanageable when we don’t you fully understand the differences between responsibility and choice.

Responsibility means you have some control or authority over a situation or another person.

Choice means you have options and the right to make decisions based on what you desire.

The truth is, many of us trade in time for our self-care for a “mask of responsibility”.  Of course, we all have things that must be taken care of but you get to decide how, when, where and if anything gets done.

The responsibility trap is just another mask we wear to cover up who we really are, hiding our feelings and desires underneath layers of “responsibility”. Your self care does not have to take a back seat, spinning around like a merry go round on autopilot just because you have “responsibilities”.

Escape the Responsibility Trap

1. If you are overwhelmed by all the things you feel responsible for, ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen if I delegate, dismiss or desire to do this at another time”.  Most often, someone else can handle the thing you feel most responsible for; it’s not your responsibility; or you can take care of it at another time.

2.  Make sure you’re not hiding control behind the mask of responsibility.  When you try to control people or situations, you set yourself up to become angry, disappointed and frustrated.  The only control you have is the control you have over yourself.

3. Take care of you.  Your self care is the most important task on your to-do list.  So why not add your self-care to your list of responsibilities and take authority over how your time and energy is spent.

4.  Learn to say “No”.  Set firm limits on what you choose to spend your time and energy doing. Don’t take on more than you are willing, able and desire to do.

It’s my firm belief that we create lives of joy and abundance or lives filled with drama and confusion. Taking on more and more that is outside your realm of authority plants the seeds of falling into the responsibility trap.

Will you shed the “responsibility trap” or choose to free yourself of overwhelm by setting limits on your time and energy so that your self-care does not get relegated to the back burner?

If you’re ready to escape the responsibility trap and get more tips and resources like these, I encourage you check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You

 

5 Tips to Boost Confidence

Confidence image

Have you ever watched a self-confident woman enter a room? Did you notice the purposeful walk, the smile that says “I’m here in all my glory” without seeming cocky or boastful? Did you also notice how she seemed to look into the eyes of everyone she passes with a genuine greeting and smile? Did you pay attention to how she seemed to focus intently on the person she was talking to?

Have you ever witnessed someone like that woman and wondered “how does she come across so confident”? “What’s her secret”?

Confident people make mistakes – they admit to it; they know who they are – warts and all. When an end result is uncertain, confident people will say, “I’ll try” because they know they will likely succeed and if they don’t, they feel they will succeed another time. People who lack self-confidence believe they will fail before even trying. Those who are overconfident believe it is their right to succeed without having to work for it.

You can choose to act as though you have confidence even if you don’t feel confident at the moment. Watch people you think have confidence and emulate them. The external images are the same for a truly confident person and one who is posing as confident. In other words, fake it until you make it…

The more you practice being confident, the more others will perceive you as confident and the more you will believe you are confident. The confidence you were pretending to have becomes more authentic and leads to more confidence.

You can start today to display more self-confidence in your life. Here are five tips to boost your confidence immediately.

1. Walk Tall: You can tell how a person feels about herself by the way she walks. Is it sluggish, weary, uneasy? Or is it full of life and resolute? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

2. Stand up Straight: Likewise, the way a person carries herself also tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and ill at ease actions usually are lacking self-confidence. They don’t think of themselves as significant and lack passion about what they are doing. Practice good posture and you will automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You will make a positive impression on others and immediately feel more alert and powerful.

3. Be Grateful: Devote some time each day to list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success. When you focus too much on what you don’t have, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude.

4. Express Yourself: By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you will become a better public speaker, and more secure in you own thoughts and ideas.

5. Take a Front Seat: In any assembly, group, or classroom, most people tend to avoid sitting at the front of the room. The back of the room is preferable because they are fearful that they will be noticed or called upon. This reflects a lack of self-confidence. Making the decision to sit in the front row confronts this irrational fear head on and at the same time, builds self confidence.

Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Practice building self confidence and if you falter, get right back up and try again! I promise you it will get easier.

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