Tap Into Your Inner Wizard to Overcome Fear and Doubt

You might wish you had enough courage live authentically, write a best selling novel or live with purpose and authority. You might long for loving, fulfilling relationships with your partner, family and friends.  Or you think you don’t know the answers to the probing questions you have.

The answers you’re looking for already within you. You already have the intelligence,  courage and confidence to achieve your hearts desire.

But doubt and fear have you stuck so that you can’t find your way back to the happiness and success you desire.

No matter what other dreams you have, being happy is a dream most people share.

Yet, a lot of people are “unhappy”, given up on their dreams, constantly overwhelmed, confused and lack the strength to implement changes in their lives.

Often, underneath this unhappiness is fear coupled with limiting beliefs that cloud their thinking about what is possible.

And, they’re looking for answers everywhere but within themselves.

Everything you want is already within your grasp if you only look deep inside to find it.

Wizard of ozDo you remember “The Wizard of Oz” movie where all the characters thought they could get what they needed from the Wizard?

The Scarecrow thought he needed a brain

The Tin Man thought he didn’t have a heart

The Cowardly Lion thought he had no courage

Dorothy wanted to find a way to go home

As it turned out, everything they wanted and needed was already there within them. All they had to do was look inside for the answers. The answers were buried deep in their thoughts.  Once the doubt, fear and limiting beliefs are pushed aside, the scarecrow realized his brain was functioning just fine; the tin man figured out he was capable of showing emotions; the cowardly lion recognized he was already brave; and Dorothy discovered she simply had to click the ruby red slippers she already wore to get back home.

Just like the Wizard of Oz characters, your inner wizard is standing by ready, willing and able to give you a gentle nudge to remind you that everything you want in life is already within your grasp.

And to get you bouncing down the yellow brick road, here are some tips to help you tap into your heart’s desires:

  • To get happy, be happy. I know that sounds overly simplistic but the reality is you become what you think.  Don’t allow negativity, doubt and fear keep you from being happy. If you want more joy in your life, think uplifting thoughts.
  • To have more, be grateful for what you already have.  Remember, a closed fist is not open to receiving.  Open yourself up to receive the abundance the universe has in store for you.  The more you show gratitude for what you already have, the more room you have to receive.
  • Keep dreaming. Your dreams can motivate you to take action towards your unique desires. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. No one can take away your dream or live it.  Whatever you desire, start now putting in place the steps to get you there.
  • Surround yourself with people who are uplifting, supportive and encouraging to keep you motivated.

Remember Dorothy, the Tin man, the Cowardly Lion and the Scarecrow…They all had self-doubt, fear and limiting thoughts about themselves and what they could do that thwarted what they really wanted. But in the end, it was their inner wizard that showed them how to live confidently, courageously and step boldly into the lives that were already destined for them.

And, for support in discovering your inner wizard, I invite you to join our Self Care Circle where you will you’ll get helpful tips on living well, gems of insight and advance notice of my blog posts, events and programs.

Gladys Anderson, Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys M. Anderson is a certified life coach, licensed marriage & family therapist, consultant, workshop facilitator and author of the soon to be published book, “Master the Genie Within”. She coaches women in the art of saying no and how to protect their precious time and energy by setting strong boundaries to create a uniquely crystal clear vision for the satisfying careers and relationships they truly want. In her spare time, Gladys loves to travel and experience new and exciting adventures. She is an amateur genealogist, avid reader, loves “techy” stuff, and especially enjoys reading mystery novels.

Can You Show More Gratitude?

gratitude

You can never run out of things to be grateful for. So many times we take everyday things for granted – like our cell phone connection, lighting and heat for our homes, the Internet, TV, microwaves, our games and global connections.

Recently, we had a major power outage in our town.  Our home was without power for seven days. For some folk the outage lasted longer. Spending two nights in a cold dark house with a fireplace for warmth and four nights in an emergency shelter was a stark reminder for me to be more conscious of the things I have to be grateful for.

It’s easy to be grateful when you receive a tangible gift or for food, clothes, shelter but what about the everyday things that we so easily take for granted like the technology that powers the nifty gadgets we use everyday to make our live easier, saves us time and provides entertainment?

Do you remember what it was like before cell phones with calendars when you lugged around a day planner to keep track of your schedule? It’s much more convenient to have a smartphone that is both calendar, telephone, with countless productivity and entertainment apps to simplify our lives.

I became acutely aware during the power outage of some of the things I’ve neglected to add to my daily gratitude list.  Here are just a few of the things I was reminded to be grateful for during the power outage:

  1. I am grateful for the technology that powers my gadgets – smartphone, computer, microwave, garage door opener, and answering machine
  2. I am grateful to have gas and electrical service that keeps me warm and cozy
  3. I am grateful for a large comfortable bed to sleep in
  4. I am grateful for the town services that supplied food, shelter, and hot showers to hundreds of families
  5. I am grateful for the friends who were concerned about our well being
  6. I am grateful for the utility companies from out of state who helped restore power
  7. I am grateful that we will be reimbursed by our insurance company for the spoiled food in our freezer

This could become quite a lengthy list so I’ll stop here.

I have a lot to be grateful for.

I hope you don’t experience a prolonged power outage before you show gratitude for the daily things you may have taken for granted.

And, for more tips on how you can show gratitude in your life, check out my book, Master the Genie Within

Show Your Appreciation in 10 Simple Ways

show appreciation Showing appreciation is about more than saying the perfunctory “thank you” when  someone does a good deed for us.  Many times, we neglect to tell the people who enrich our lives just how we feel about the things they do or say and that create a richer experience for us such as being a good friend or making us laugh.

We take so much for granted that we may not pay that much attention to the daily things we can do to light up someone else’s life.  As the wise poet, Maya Angelou says, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

You can start now to “make someone’s day” by not only noticing their good deeds but also showing appreciation for their qualities, characteristics and unique traits. Here are a few ways you can easily brighten up someone’s day:

  • Send a card to a friend for just “being there”, “for being a friend” or a “just because I’m thinking of you”.  People in your life won’t know how much you care if you don’t tell them.
  • Put an “I love you” note on your child or spouse’s pillow to remind him or her how much you love them.
  • Place fresh cut flowers at the reception desk at your office to show appreciation for the help they give you.
  • Treat a friend to a movie you know they would enjoy.
  • Surprise your neighbor, who takes your packages when you are away, with a bouquet of flowers
  • Give an unexpected hug to someone in your family.
  • Scour your address book and call a friend who you’ve not been in touch with for a while.
  • Tell someone how much you value having him or her as part of you life.
  • Smile often. It not only brightens your mood, it will show others that you notice and connect with them.
  • Compliment a customer service worker who has been especially helpful.

Taking a little extra time to uplift someone’s spirit goes a long way in showing them that you care and that they matter to you.

And, for more tips on how you can show gratitude in your life and the lives of others, check out my audio and transcript More Wealth and Abundance.

Gladys M. Anderson | Self-Care Genie

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Certified Life Coach, Family therapist and Group Coaching Specialist, Gladys M. Anderson, helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other busy overwhelmed women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care.

Stop to Smell the Roses While In Pursuit of Happiness

Stop to smell the roses

Are you waiting for your situation to change so you can be happy? Many people are waiting for that illusive dream to manifest, the great idea to be implemented, the new house, car or some other tangible evidence that says they are Happy.

Stop to smell the roses while in pursuit of happiness!

Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel, how deserving you think you are of good things coming your way.

Your internal critic (the negative messages received and embedded in your subconscious) may attempt to sabotage your happiness quotient which will in turn affect your level of self-confidence and self-esteem.

Self-confidence is the realistic and positive expectations you have for yourself, your abilities and others. Self-confident people exude a sense of control in their lives.

Self-esteem is what you think of yourself.  If you think you are insignificant, unworthy, devalued, that is the perception you will also present to the world. How you allow yourself to be treated and the way you show up to the world has the greatest impact on your self esteem. No one can make you a doormat unless you willingly lie down.

Your happiness depends on the expectations and mindset you have about how happy you are.

To quote the actress, Betty Davis – “You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation.”

Here are some tips to get your happy dance on…

  • Trust your feelings – Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, appreciating the memories and learning from the past.  Take time to experience to the utmost the little things that bring you joy.
  • Be grateful – Gratitude is a powerful state of mind.  It shifts your focus from lack to abundance and gives you a sense of contentment.
  • Lower your worry quotient – Worrying about things over which you have no control will overwhelm and deplete you. Concentrate on the things you have control over. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • Be flexible – Things will not always go the way you want but if you are adaptable, you won’t raise your blood pressure by trying to have it your way. Allow for a change in plans.
  • Stop to smell the roses – In our hurry up, multitasking and over scheduled lives, we don’t stop long enough to relax, dream and enjoy life’s simple pleasures.  Don’t add more things into your day than you can reasonably handle. Take time for a leisurely walk, read an uplifting book or sit quietly listening to your favorite tunes.

Moment by moment, you can make a choice to be happy.  More often than not, it’s the little things that annoy, frustrate and derail happiness.   Expect happiness, embrace it and stop to smell the roses along the way.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Certified Life Coach, Family therapist and Group Coaching Specialist, Gladys M. Anderson, helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other care-giving women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care. To get tips, start living out loud with enthusiasm, energy, passion, and self-confidence now, get your copy of Building Strong Boundaries to Create More Breathing Space in Your Hectic Life

Accessing the Power of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support its  effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge being grateful has many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for thankfulness to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just something we express at Thanksgiving. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Being grateful isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be thankful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies.

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

•  Keep a  journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.

•  Make a collage by drawing or pasting pictures of the things that bring joy to your life.

•  Practice around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.

•  Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.

•  When you feel like complaining, make a list of all the things that are going well instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.

•  Notice how your new “attitude of gratitude” is beginning to have an impact on your life. Write about it, sing about it, and express thanks.

As you continue to practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover just how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

What’s on your list?

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, author and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping individuals and couples to receive and revive the love, passion, respect and fun that’s been missing from their relationships.

How to Attract More Abundance – Show Gratitude for What You Already Have

We spend so much time focusing on all the things that go wrong in our world that we give often overlook the abundance already in our lives and the things that are going well for us. It’s common knowledge that we should be grateful but we don’t always take the time to stop and take stock of just how much abundance we already have in our lives.

Here are some things to be grateful for that you can easily overlook:

The gift of time

No matter how “busy” you say you are, you still find time to use in non-productive, time killer activities. Time is still your most precious gift.  Think about how often you waste this special gift. Are you spending countless hours indulging in mindless TV watching, browsing the Internet, chatting on the phone?  How can you eliminate some of the time killers and use your time for more productive activities?

The Gift of technology

It seems we are inundated with access to more information today than ever before, yet we don’t always use this gift as a means to educate and inform us. Make it a point to learn something new and  use it to educate and inform yourself and others.

The gift of space

Americans live in homes that are 2-3 times larger than the homes most of our ancestors lived in.  Yet, we complain of a lack of space.  We have more “things”- clothes, rooms, electronics, toys, etc –  than our ancestor . It seems we have to fill every available space creating an environment of clutter and disorganization. How much of your space is filled with clutter?  Take a look around you and make it a priority to get rid of unnecessary clutter to give you more space.

The gift of Memories

I wish I had access to more pictures of my ancestors but I don’t.  Today, you have no excuse to forego storing pictures and movies of your loved ones. With access to modern technology, you can easily save, retrieve and access your digital photos and movies of your most precious memories.

That’s just a few things to be grateful for that you may have overlooked.

What other things can you think of to add to the list?

Remember, to attract more abundance in your life, start showing gratitude for what you already have. When you consistently show gratitude for the gifts that come into your life, you open the door for more.

In what ways do you show gratitude for the abundance in your life?

Let’s talk….love to hear what you’re thinking!

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping women balance the many demands on their time and energy, create limits that shift balance from overwhelm to energized, and live their lives with courage, confidence and clarity.

The Secret to Making Changes in Your Life

Bill O’Hanlon, a well-known family therapist, says in his book, “Do One Thing Different” to focus on the solution rather than the problem.

I couldn’t agree more.  When all of your attention is given to the problem at hand, you end up with very little energy to apply to a solution.

Long before I read The Secret,  I learned from Bill O’Hanlon that changing my thoughts and what I  paid attention to is a way for me to bring about a desired change.

In my practice, I come across people everyday who say they want change but are unwilling to challenge faulty beliefs about themselves, the situation or do something different.

It’s much more helpful to look at the things that are going well and exceptions rather than dwelling on the problem.  For instance,  what happens when you tell yourself you are limited in what you can achieve or you don’t have enough?

Do you find yourself saying the same phrases over and over?  Phrases like, “I just don’t have enough energy to go to the gym,  “I have to be the responsible one” or when will I have time for me”.   Sound familiar?

Thinking the same thing over and over only gets you the same results. Lack and scarcity thinking attracts more lack and scarcity.

Here are some things you can practice doing that will start you thinking differently and getting different results:

  1. Create new feelings. When you find yourself feeling stuck, stressed and thinking the same empty phrases, try turning that thought into a solution.  For example, “instead of bemoaning a lack of time, try saying “I have enough time to nurture myself” or “I go to the gym everyday at 6:30”.  New actions create new feelings.
  2. Change a pattern. Whatever you’re doing something and you have a limiting thought – STOP – Take 5 minutes to relax. Surely, five minutes away from a chore is not going to cause World War III.
  3. Be grateful – Show gratitude for the things that are going well in your life.   Start by writing down at least one thing you are grateful for each day  and work your way up to listing five things you are grateful for and you will find your attitude different and less time spent dwelling on what’s not working for you.

I would love to hear your thoughts….just leave a comment below to join the conversation.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

About the Author:

Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist.  Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries,  build balance and create breathing space in their busy lives.