Show Kindness to Yourself

Show kindness to yourselfShow kindness to yourself even when you make a mistake, decision you regret or choices and experiences have you stuck, unmotivated and angry.

We all make mistakes.

If a friend made a mistake or choice that landed her in a shaky situation, how would you respond to her?

More than likely you would be there to support, encourage and uplift her.

So, why not extend the same courtesies and show kindness to yourself when you’ve made a choice that didn’t turn out the way you expected?

When you are beating yourself up with negative self talk, stop and use the following tips to show kindness to yourself:

1. Show kindness to yourself in the same way you would a friend who might be going through a rough patch
. Speak encouraging, empowering words, or perk yourself with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Don’t fall into the “woe is me” trap of negative self talk like “I can’t…” “I’m too…” or “I’m not…”

2. Leave your mental comfort zone. When you’re feeling in a rut or unmotivated, focus on something different. If you think long enough about what isn’t possible, your thoughts will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

3. Value your time. Time is a precious commodity and ought to be valued as such. Filling you time with negative self talk will add undue that stress to your life and is not a good way to spend your time. Instead, turn your attention to things that delight and inspire  you.

4. Forgive yourself. Blaming yourself for things that happened in the past will cause you to stay stuck in anger and unforgiveness. You are human and will make mistakes in judgment and engage in behaviors that you wish you hadn’t. Just as you would show kindness and forgive a friend for a minor transgression, forgive yourself.

5. Practice good self-care. When you practice good self-care, you are in a better position to ward off negativity, stress and anger. Set aside a portion of your day for “me time”.  Me time is uninterrupted time you spend meditating, relaxing to soothing music or just sitting with your feet up. Whatever you decide, make sure it’s a part of your daily routine to unwind and rejuvenate.

Keep the above tips in mind whenever you start to be too hard on yourself. Remember, you are your best friend! So show kindness to yourself by displaying the same nurturing, uplifting and positive support you would offer to a friend.

And, to learn even more about how you can show kindness to yourself, I invite you to get my latest book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You.

The Rainbow Appears After the Rain

A sudden summer rain shower did little to dampen the festive atmosphere at the rooftop party where I got to experience this spectacular light show in the form of a rainbow. A rainbow has been described as “one of the most spectacular light shows of the earth“. Rainbows are defined as optical and meteorological phenomena that produces a spectrum of light when the sun shines onto droplets of moisture in the Earth’s atmosphere.

Of course, none of that crossed my mind when I took this photo.  My only thought was that I might not get a chance to view this spectacular site from such a vantage point again.  I just knew I had to capture it even if I am an amateur photographer.

Months later, while purging some photos, I come across the rainbow picture and think of the rainbow as a metaphor for the contrasts we experience in our lives. To see a rainbow, one has to have rain and sunshine.

Remember, a rainbow doesn’t appear until after the rain. Into every life some rain must fall. And, while we would like to avoid the rain, it’s inevitable. But you don’t have to stay mired in the challenges, obstacles, and disillusionment that seem to fall from the sky. Instead, look for the rainbow.   Dolly Parton sums it up in this quote:

“The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta to put up with the rain” ~ Dolly Parton

When faced with the storms of life, take a moment to reflect on the rainbows that have appeared in your life after the rain has passed, such as:

  • An unexpected random act of kindness when you least expected it
  • A door of opportunity flung wide open for you to enter
  • A helping hand that came along just when you were ready to give up
  • One of your co-workers or friends surprises you with a special treat that makes your day

If you’ve experienced any of this,  you’ve had a rainbow burst through the clouds!

Comment and share your “rainbow””.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson helps singles and couples to receive, renovate, and restore the love, passion, respect and fun that’s been missing from their relationships.