Popular Self-Care Tip Posts

Woman stressed and frustratedHave you ever spent hours jumping from one web link to another trying to gather relevant self-care tip posts only to find yourself in a maze of information overload?

I have and I know just how time-consuming and frustrating that can be.

Don’t you sometimes wish you had a handy reference guide put together with several articles about your specific search topic all in one place?

Now you do…

Periodically I will publish a list of previously posted popular self-care tips and strategies that I’ve rounded up from various sources on the web to make it easier for you to get self-care tips and more all in one place.   Here’s the list:

15 Self-Care Tips for Anyone Who Works Too Much
Nichole Liloia on MindBodyGreen
Choose from these 15 self-care tips to make self-care a part of your regular practice so that you feel good about taking care of yourself (and you get a break from your work!).

The Absolute Worst Things To Do When You’re Stressed Out
Jena Pincott on Oprah.com
When life comes at you fast and furious, the last thing you want to do is make things even harder on yourself. Start by avoiding these 8 stress  traps

Girl on a Ledge – Moving Past Your Fears 
Marisa Leighon on Huffington Post
Girl on a ledge describes perfectly that feeling we have when fear keeps us stuck in the same old patterns, trying to decide how to make the transition from fearful to courageous.

How to Build Self Confidence
Zorka Hereford on Essential Life Skill.net
How we see ourselves is more important than how anyone else sees us. If we don’t work at loving and accepting ourselves, nothing anyone else thinks matters.

Four Ways to Deal With Stress
Posted by the American Heart Association
Use these four simple techniques to combat stress

How Fear Keeps us Stuck (and what to do about it) – Posted on Unstuck.com
9 tips to help you get unstuck and move past the fear

What’s in Your Tool Kit?
Posted on CoachforYourDreams.com/blog
Just as you use physical tools to complete tasks and projects, you also have tools that help you maintain your self-care. To stay organized, focused, accountable and inspired, use these tools from your self-care tool kit.

If you enjoyed these popular self-care tip posts, please leave a comment to let me know what resonates with you and what other topic you would like me to pull together for you.

In the meantime, for more self-care tips and insights, I invite you to check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You

The Power of Quiet Time

Park benchMost of us don’t have quiet time. We’re usually too busy to sit quietly for even a minute. We certainly don’t believe we deserve a space of our own in which to go within to replenish our energy.

In the book, A Room of One’s Own, Virginia Woolf refers to a woman needing a quiet space of her own to write. I doubt if Woolf could have envisioned the hectic lives most women live today. Whether we apply it to writing or other areas of our lives, Woolf’s message is still relevant. We all need some quiet time and a space to reflect and reclaim a sense of well-being.

Some of us manage to build quiet time into our busy days but others constantly complain about a lack of time.

Most often, it’s not time we lack but rather, we regret forfeiting quiet time to reflect, re-center and regain a sense of well-being. Quiet time helps us to unwind from our daily stressors, engage in an activity we enjoy or just sit quietly to replenish our energy.

When I don’t build some quiet time into my day, it seems as though I’m on a merry-go-round – going nowhere fast. But when I make it a point to schedule some quiet time into my day, my life doesn’t seem quite so hectic.

There’s a reason why hospitals advocate for quietness. It’s so patients can restore their strength and regain health. You don’t have to be in a hospital to regain your strength and reclaim a sense of well-being.

Instead, use these power of quiet time tips to reflect and re-center yourself:

Request some quiet time if you live in a “busy’ household. I’ve found that often a request is all that is needed to get what you want. Rarely will your request be denied. And even if it is, you must take charge of your life by having the courage to do what is best for you.

Make space for yourself away from everyone else. A busy mother once told me that her quiet time was a relaxing bubble bath at the end of her day. She taught her family not to disturb her during this time.

Take a walk around your neighborhood for 15-20 minutes. I often find a short walk alone quiets my mind and re-energizes me.

Spend quality time with others. Most couples know that in order to stay connected and strengthen their relationship they must spend quality time together, focused on each other. Spending quality time with those you care about means listening and giving that person your undivided attention. You can’t give another person your undivided attention when you are busy checking email, texting or thinking about your next project.

Listen to soothing music. Music is a natural relaxant and reduces stress.

For more tips and insights like these, I invite you to check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You

Who do you think you are?

canstockphoto1212266Who do you think you are is a refrain that fear whispers in my ear regularly.

The only purpose for fear landing on my shoulder, whispering my ear, “who do you think you are” is to stop me dead in my tracks, so I won’t take the next step toward realizing a dream or doing something that will bring me joy.

You may not even realize fear has you in its clutches until you are gripped with immobility, indecisiveness and self-doubt.  By then you’ve put aside your dreams, your aspirations and lack the energy to move forward.

In other words, you’re the passenger not the pilot in your own vehicle.

How do you silence “fear talk” when she whispers in your ear,  “who do you think you are”?

You silence her the same as you would any other pest.

1) First, you flick her off your shoulder like the annoying pest she is so she no longer has access to your ear.

2)  Tell her that she’s not the boss of you and go away. Like most bullies when you stand up to fear, she will run the other way or at least leave you alone and walk fast towards her next victim.

Once you prevent fear from accessing your ear, swatted her from your shoulder and sent on her way, you no longer have an excuse to stay stuck. Now you are free to pursue your dreams and show up in the world as the fearless, authentic woman you really are.

So what are you waiting for?

Get fear off your shoulder and start living the life you deserve and want.

For more tips and insights like these, check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You.

Master the Art of Preparation

Master the Art of PreparationI was reminded of the concept of preparation recently when my husband, who is a chef, received his association magazine, Mise en Place (a French phrase for “put in place”). In the chef’s world, the term means to organize the necessary tools and ingredients for the evening meal.

When you master the art of preparation, you are not just focused on the details, outcome and possibilities.  While these things are important, preparation means that you have armed yourself with not only the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to get the job done but you are also prepared mentally and physically.

Most of us think of preparation as the steps we take to get ready for an event or undertaking such as preparing for a party. We are usually well aware of the tangible “things” we need to get the job done.  But, do you remember to prepare mentally and physically first?

Recently I took on the task of painting my bedroom.  Painting, filling nail holes where pictures hung, sanding and taping around doors and window sills was almost the easy part.  Yes, I got the job done but with untold stress and fatigue. What I neglected was to prepare myself physically and mentally.  Yes, I did all the prep work needed for the painting but neglected to prepare my mind and body by getting enough rest beforehand and organizing everything I needed in a way that was manageable for the task. Often when we are undertaking a task, we neglect to think of our mind as body as part of the prep work when we assemble the tools we need to carry out our plans.  Mental and physical preparation is the first step you need to take before you forge into any task at hand.

You can use the same concept of preparation as chefs do – put in place everything you will need including your self-care!

Here are some tips to think about as you master the art of preparation for your next project:

1. Before undertaking a project, make sure you’re not already overwhelmed by something else.

2. Get plenty of rest before you start your project.

3. Take deep relaxing breaths to center yourself before you tackle the job.

4. Assemble everything you will need to accomplish your undertaking.

5. Make sure you have replacement tools and extra supplies.

6. Will you need assistance?  If so, who can you call on to help you?

7.  Ask for help, if you need it.

8.  Have you mentally and physically prepared yourself to take on this project?

9. Do you have a reasonable time frame to complete the task?

Imagine how empowered you would feel if you took the time to master the art of preparation before your next project, vacation or the beginning of your day.

Whether you’re preparing your evening meal or undertaking a project or task, when you master the art of preparation by embracing the chef’s concept of “Mise en Place“, you have put everything in place that you need to get the job done, including your self-care. You are less stressed, less anxious, more confident and better prepared so that your project goes smoothly.

Before you start on your next project or task, contact me so I can help you with the mental and physical preparation so that you not only get the results you want but you are also prepared mentally and physically for the task at hand.

Show Kindness to Yourself

Show kindness to yourselfShow kindness to yourself even when you make a mistake, decision you regret or choices and experiences have you stuck, unmotivated and angry.

We all make mistakes.

If a friend made a mistake or choice that landed her in a shaky situation, how would you respond to her?

More than likely you would be there to support, encourage and uplift her.

So, why not extend the same courtesies and show kindness to yourself when you’ve made a choice that didn’t turn out the way you expected?

When you are beating yourself up with negative self talk, stop and use the following tips to show kindness to yourself:

1. Show kindness to yourself in the same way you would a friend who might be going through a rough patch
. Speak encouraging, empowering words, or perk yourself with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Don’t fall into the “woe is me” trap of negative self talk like “I can’t…” “I’m too…” or “I’m not…”

2. Leave your mental comfort zone. When you’re feeling in a rut or unmotivated, focus on something different. If you think long enough about what isn’t possible, your thoughts will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

3. Value your time. Time is a precious commodity and ought to be valued as such. Filling you time with negative self talk will add undue that stress to your life and is not a good way to spend your time. Instead, turn your attention to things that delight and inspire  you.

4. Forgive yourself. Blaming yourself for things that happened in the past will cause you to stay stuck in anger and unforgiveness. You are human and will make mistakes in judgment and engage in behaviors that you wish you hadn’t. Just as you would show kindness and forgive a friend for a minor transgression, forgive yourself.

5. Practice good self-care. When you practice good self-care, you are in a better position to ward off negativity, stress and anger. Set aside a portion of your day for “me time”.  Me time is uninterrupted time you spend meditating, relaxing to soothing music or just sitting with your feet up. Whatever you decide, make sure it’s a part of your daily routine to unwind and rejuvenate.

Keep the above tips in mind whenever you start to be too hard on yourself. Remember, you are your best friend! So show kindness to yourself by displaying the same nurturing, uplifting and positive support you would offer to a friend.

And, to learn even more about how you can show kindness to yourself, I invite you to get my latest book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You.