Ordinary People Do Extraordinary Things

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Greatness is ordinary people who do extraordinary things.

When you think of greatness, who comes to mind – Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, Joan of Arc, Oprah, Muhammad Ali, Bobby Fischer, Deepak Chopra?

Guess what, none of these people are any different that you or me. They didn’t just wake up one day and decide to be great. At one point, they all were everyday, ordinary people who ended up doing extraordinary things. And they followed the calling they had to bring their gifts to the world.

Greatness is not about becoming famous, powerful or rich. It’s not about having millions of dollars. It’s not about banner headlines.

It is about making a difference in someone else’s life.

It is about recognizing difficulties and moving past them.

It is about finding your purpose in life, being your best self and having a positive impact beyond yourself.

It is about the discipline of personal mastery.

And, as run of the mill and unknown as we may think we are, we’re all called to do extraordinary things. Everyday, ordinary people, just like you and me are doing extraordinary things.,

The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses – behind the lines, in the gym, and out there on the road, long before I dance under those lights”. – Muhammad Ali

What do you think that quote says about greatness?

Did Ali’s greatness come from those brief hours he fought in the ring? Did he just come out of nowhere to become the Greatest Heavyweight Champion of all times and steal the hearts of millions of fans?

No, his greatness came, as he said, “far away from witnesses…” He poured himself into every moment training and preparing, even when no one was watching.

You don’t have to be Oprah, Muhammad Ali, Mother Teresa or in the spotlight to show your greatness. Greatness comes from living each moment as if it was the only moment that exists; and in actuality – it is.

Ordinary People Do Extraordinary Things

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Build Relationship Resiliency

Build relationship resiliency so that you have strong relationships with your partners, family, friends and colleagues. All of the relationships you have hinge on the one you develop with yourself.

When your inner relationship suffers, all other connections fall short of being as effective as they could be.

For example:

  • Feeling undeserving will prevent you from experiencing the joy and happiness you are worthy of.
  • Fearfulness keeps you stuck and connected to people and behaviors that create negativity and doubt into your life.
  • You may allow others to make decisions for you based on a faulty belief that your ideas and thoughts will be rejected.

A strong foundation of confidence and self-worth are the building blocks to relationship building with yourself and others.  And if, on occasion, you feel you don’t deserve goodness and happiness, the feeling is short lived when you are resilient and can bounce back to your true self.

Here are some ways you can spark a resilient relationship:

  • Choose to speak up and boldly ask for what you want.
  • Cultivate the belief that you deserve happiness, joy, prosperity and abundance in your life.
  • Let go of negative, energy-draining people and situations.
  • Detach your emotional energy from pessimism and the exhausting demands on your time and power.
  • Be open to attract more positive interactions and circumstances in your life.
  • Replace faulty beliefs about how you are perceived with confidence building affirmations.
  • Acknowledge and appreciate your accomplishments without waiting for validation, approval and acceptance from others.
  • Establish strong limits around what is acceptable, what you are willing to do and how much you can comfortably give.

And, if you are ready to build a resilient relationships in your life  you may want to start with your FREE download of 7 Daily Self Care Tips to Renew Your Mind, Body and Spirit.

 

Stop to Smell the Roses While In Pursuit of Happiness

Stop to smell the roses

Are you waiting for your situation to change so you can be happy? Many people are waiting for that illusive dream to manifest, the great idea to be implemented, the new house, car or some other tangible evidence that says they are Happy.

Stop to smell the roses while in pursuit of happiness!

Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel, how deserving you think you are of good things coming your way.

Your internal critic (the negative messages received and embedded in your subconscious) may attempt to sabotage your happiness quotient which will in turn affect your level of self-confidence and self-esteem.

Self-confidence is the realistic and positive expectations you have for yourself, your abilities and others. Self-confident people exude a sense of control in their lives.

Self-esteem is what you think of yourself.  If you think you are insignificant, unworthy, devalued, that is the perception you will also present to the world. How you allow yourself to be treated and the way you show up to the world has the greatest impact on your self esteem. No one can make you a doormat unless you willingly lie down.

Your happiness depends on the expectations and mindset you have about how happy you are.

To quote the actress, Betty Davis – “You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation.”

Here are some tips to get your happy dance on…

  • Trust your feelings – Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, appreciating the memories and learning from the past.  Take time to experience to the utmost the little things that bring you joy.
  • Be grateful – Gratitude is a powerful state of mind.  It shifts your focus from lack to abundance and gives you a sense of contentment.
  • Lower your worry quotient – Worrying about things over which you have no control will overwhelm and deplete you. Concentrate on the things you have control over. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • Be flexible – Things will not always go the way you want but if you are adaptable, you won’t raise your blood pressure by trying to have it your way. Allow for a change in plans.
  • Stop to smell the roses – In our hurry up, multitasking and over scheduled lives, we don’t stop long enough to relax, dream and enjoy life’s simple pleasures.  Don’t add more things into your day than you can reasonably handle. Take time for a leisurely walk, read an uplifting book or sit quietly listening to your favorite tunes.

Moment by moment, you can make a choice to be happy.  More often than not, it’s the little things that annoy, frustrate and derail happiness.   Expect happiness, embrace it and stop to smell the roses along the way.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Certified Life Coach, Family therapist and Group Coaching Specialist, Gladys M. Anderson, helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other care-giving women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care. To get tips, start living out loud with enthusiasm, energy, passion, and self-confidence now, get your copy of Building Strong Boundaries to Create More Breathing Space in Your Hectic Life

In Pursuit of Happiness

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony – Gandhi

Most people expend a great amount of time looking for happiness in all the wrong places . They chase dreams rather than live dreams. Their lives are stimulated only by addictions, religions, and even other people in a futile attempt to fill the void with purpose and meaning. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.

Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel. How you feel about yourself is a direct result of the accumulated experiences you have had, particular growing up.  For instance, if you grew up being made to feel worthy, valued, loved, protected and respected, most likely you feel happier.

On the other hand, if your experiences led you to feeling unworthy, unloved and disrespected, you may be unhappy, have low self esteem, weak boundaries and lack confidence.

Your internal critic (the negative messages received and embedded in your subconscious) may attempt to sabotage your happiness quotient which will in turn affect your level of self-confidence and self-esteem.

Self confidence is the realistic and positive expectations you have for yourself, your abilities and others. Self confident people exude a sense of control in their lives.

Self esteem is what you think of yourself.  If you think you are insignificant, unworthy, devalued, that is the perception you will also present to the world. How you allow yourself to be treated and the way you show up to the world has the greatest impact on your self esteem. No one can make you a doormat unless you willingly lie down.

Fear is another negative influence that dictates how you feel, think and interact in your relationships with others.  Each time, you don’t speak up for what you deserve, want and need, you allow fear to rule.  Fear is an emotion and one that you have complete control over.  Your choices are to let fear rule or you rule fear.  Fear is the biggest obstacle to growth and change.

Procrastinating and putting off needed actions you believe you must take, is acknowledging that you really don’t have the necessary confidence to carry them out.

Your happiness depends on the expectations and mindset you have about happiness.

To quote the actress, Betty Davis – “You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation.”

Here are some tips to get your happy dance on…

  • Maintain a sense of humor; everything is not a matter of life or death. Try to find the humor in stressful situations.
  • Lower your worry quotient.  Worrying about things over which you have no control will overwhelm and deplete you. Concentrate on the things you have control over. Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you must worry, allow yourself 5 minutes to dwell on the situation and move on to something more productive.
  • Be flexible.  Things will not always go the way you want but if you are adaptable, you won’t raise your blood pressure by trying to have it your way. Allow for a change in plans.
  • Schedule wisely. Don’t add more things into your day than you can reasonably handle.  Over scheduling leads to frustration, anger and resentment.  Avoid it. Set clear boundaries around your time.
  • Happiness is a series of choices you make that determine how you react or respond to a given situation.  Remember, no one but you can determine your happiness.  Make wise choices based on the things that are important to you.
  • Set realistic  expectations for yourself and others. Make sure your expectations aren’t rooted in faulty beliefs based on negative experiences.

 

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

About the Author:

Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist.  Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries,  build balance and create breathing space in their busy lives.

Top 3 Things You Can Do To Take Control of Your Life

There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can’t control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them:

1) Let Go of Expectations
Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else’s. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with havoc, frustration and anxiety.

2) Know the Difference Between  Self-Confidence and Controlling.
Confidence means that you believe in your ability to set consistent limits, priorities and realistic expectations for yourself and others. To control means that you wish to manage the actions of others and/or the outcome of things around you. Remember, the only person you have any control over is YOU. As your confidence level grows, it will enable you to let go of outcomes of things that you have no control over in life.

3) Coach people how you want to be treated
A crucial step in having more control over your life is the ability to teach others how you wish to be treated. You don’t have any control over others’ actions; however, you do have control over how you “allow” others to treat you. If you find yourself constantly stressed by the things you allow other people to bring into your life, you may want to begin asking yourself, “is it worth having these people or things in my life any longer?” Make yourself a priority and you will find that others will treat you with the respect you deserve. Remember, no one can walk over you unless you willingly lie down.

Keeping these tips in mind will ensure that you stay focused and in control of you!

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.