Popular Self-Care Tip Posts

Woman stressed and frustratedHave you ever spent hours jumping from one web link to another trying to gather relevant self-care tip posts only to find yourself in a maze of information overload?

I have and I know just how time-consuming and frustrating that can be.

Don’t you sometimes wish you had a handy reference guide put together with several articles about your specific search topic all in one place?

Now you do…

Periodically I will publish a list of previously posted popular self-care tips and strategies that I’ve rounded up from various sources on the web to make it easier for you to get self-care tips and more all in one place.   Here’s the list:

15 Self-Care Tips for Anyone Who Works Too Much
Nichole Liloia on MindBodyGreen
Choose from these 15 self-care tips to make self-care a part of your regular practice so that you feel good about taking care of yourself (and you get a break from your work!).

The Absolute Worst Things To Do When You’re Stressed Out
Jena Pincott on Oprah.com
When life comes at you fast and furious, the last thing you want to do is make things even harder on yourself. Start by avoiding these 8 stress  traps

Girl on a Ledge – Moving Past Your Fears 
Marisa Leighon on Huffington Post
Girl on a ledge describes perfectly that feeling we have when fear keeps us stuck in the same old patterns, trying to decide how to make the transition from fearful to courageous.

How to Build Self Confidence
Zorka Hereford on Essential Life Skill.net
How we see ourselves is more important than how anyone else sees us. If we don’t work at loving and accepting ourselves, nothing anyone else thinks matters.

Four Ways to Deal With Stress
Posted by the American Heart Association
Use these four simple techniques to combat stress

How Fear Keeps us Stuck (and what to do about it) – Posted on Unstuck.com
9 tips to help you get unstuck and move past the fear

What’s in Your Self-Care Toolbox?
Posted on gladysanderson.com
To stay organized, focused, accountable and inspired, use these handy tools from your self-care toolbox.

If you enjoyed these popular self-care tip posts, please leave a comment to let me know what resonates with you and what other topic you would like me to pull together for you.

In the meantime, for more self-care tips and insights, I invite you to check out my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You

Gladys Anderson helps individuals and couples to renovate their relationships with partners, family members, friends and co-workers.


7 Stress Busting Tips for the Holidays

Holidays are filled with joyous times spend with family and loved ones but can often be stressful as well. Some studies indicate that stress, depression and suicide are highest during the holiday season.  To reduce stress, overwhelm and possible depression, consider some of these stress busting tips for the holidays, practice some good self care and enjoy!

  • Start your list early.  Even if you change your mind, you have a guideline in place for gift giving and shopping.  I usually start my list early in the year as I listen to what my family and friends say are on their wish list.  Of course, the list might change by December but I’ve already gotten a head start and can avoid the last minute buying frenzy.
  • Budget wisely.  Assign a reasonable dollar amount for each gift on you list.  This may change but you will start your shopping with a ballpark figure in mind and likely won’t exceed your budget.
  • Shop only from your list. Don’t allow the brightly colored decorations, advertisements and shiny objects sway your intentions.
  • Take time out for self-care. While shopping or doing other errands, stop to enjoy your favorite beverage, snack or just “people watch” for 10-15 minutes.  And when done, you can resume your tasks feeling refreshed and ready to forge ahead.
  • Keep entertaining menus simple. Every occasion doesn’t have to be a Martha Stewart event.  Remember, entertaining is about creating precious memories and enjoying the company of your family and friends.
  • Use creative gift wrapping. Unless you enjoy gift wrapping, use department store gift wrapping services or recycled gift bags and tissues to cut down on the time, expense and stress of selecting paper and ribbons.
  • Prioritize. Each day, starting December 1, make a list of the important things to be done and prioritize it by importance.  Don’t try to do everything on your list, move some to another day to avoid overwhelm.

When you do too much, are worn out and lack energy, you tend to look at the seasonal preparations as just another chore. With all the planning and activities on the horizon, it’s vitally important to take time for self-care so you can enjoy the season amongst all the frenzy.

Wishing you a happy, healthy and prosperous Holiday season!

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Certified Life Coach, family therapist, and Group coaching specialist, Gladys M, Anderson helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care.  To get tips, start living out loud with more energy, passion and self confidence, start by getting your FREE copy of Building Strong Boundaries to Create More Breathing Space in Your Hectic Life

Your life is a Sum Total of Your Responses to the Choices You Have Made

Years ago, when I first heard the quote “our lives are the sum total of the choices we have made”, by Dr. Wayne Dyer,  I quickly discounted it just as a lot of people do. Because I was so wrapped up in my “stories” about what should have happened that I didn’t see how I could possibly have been remotely responsible for how the choices I made were reflected in my life.

As I gave the quote more thought, I came to realize it had more meaning for me when I interpreted it this way –   Your life is a sum total of your responses to the choices you have made. Maybe I’m taking too much liberty with Dr. Dyer’s quote but that’s a choice I get to make.

If you look at the quote as how the choices you made are connected to distressing thoughts, you take responsibility for your choices and are empowered to release the burden of unrealistic expectations you’ve placed on yourself and others.

We make choices every day, every minute and sometimes our choices don’t bring the desired results.  It’s not the results that cause angst, it’s  your response to it that causes stress. I made a choice to purchase one car over another and realized later that I hadn’t made the best choice for myself.  Did I ruminate over it, stress over or spend time trying to figure out how I could reverse my choice.  You bet I did! But, only for a short time.  It was around the time I made my choice that I come across Dr. Dyer’s quote again. After that I put on my “other” thinking cap and decided I wouldn’t stress over it or question the reality of the choice I made.

Who knows, just maybe the universe designed that I would have this car and not another.

In Byron Katie’s book, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, she cautions us to question stressful thoughts and not attach to them.

Had I attached to the thought that I made a bad decision, I would still be stressed, unable to appreciate the fact that I do have a reliable, safe car to drive and could have easily become attached to a stressful thought about a choice I made.

What about you?  If you believe your life is a sum total of your responses to the choices you have made, how do you avoid attaching to stressful thoughts about the choices you’ve made? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

Until next time…

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Certified Life Coach, Family therapist and Group Coaching Specialist, Gladys M. Anderson, helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other care-giving women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care.

Pretty is as Pretty Does

I often use to hear my grandmother say, “pretty is as pretty does”  whenever someone complimented one of her grandchildren on their looks.

It was one of those sayings that I heard often, but never really giving much thought to what it meant until recently.

Recently, as I waited in a line [practicing patience], I overheard a well dressed, attractive young woman say to someone in a rather nasty tone, “what the *%&*^ are you looking at?”  And, immediately I was transported back to my childhood hearing my grandmother’s voice, “pretty is as pretty does“.

No matter how well dressed, articulate or well connected you are if you are not pretty on the inside, you present your ugly side to the world – just like the woman I overheard sprouting ugliness.  It’s not what’s on the outside that counts but more about what’s on the inside.  That’s what my grandmother meant by pretty is as pretty does.

We all have days that can feel overwhelming, overscheduled and stressed. But, it helps if you have some things in your mental toolbox to keep you uplifted, focused and positive.

Here are some things you can keep in your toolbox so you can show up pretty inside and out.

A hammer – use your hammer to drive away negative thoughts, feelings and irritability. When you are stressed you are prone to irritability and insensitive comments.  Learn ways to reduce stress so that you aren’t constantly in a foul mood.

Nails – Each nail in your toolbox represents one of your personal boundaries. Develop strong personal boundaries to stay in touch with your own emotions, preserve your energy and protect your precious time.

A Flashlight – Your smile is your bright light.  Let it guide you wherever you go. Each day when you are getting dressed to go out into the world, commit to smiling at everyone you meet to immediately brighten your day. No matter what you’re going through, it doesn’t help to dwell in negativity. Put on your smiley face.

Gloves – Wear gloves to gently massage your bruised feelings and protect you from negativity.  Memorize a positive affirmation to uplift you and keep you motivated. [Example] I radiate confidence, grace, and happiness wherever I go.

What tools do you use that help you stay “positive and pretty?  It would be great if you would share them here in the comment section…

About the Author:

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist.  Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries, build balance and create breathing space in their busy lives.

What Happens to Your Body When You’re Stressed – Part 1

Have you heard the phrase, “stress is a killer”.  Surely, that phrase should be a wake up call to get a handle on stress. But, unfortunately, most of us wear stress like acomfortable pair of old shoes.

According to the American Academy of Family Physicians, two-thirds of office visits to family doctors are for stress-related symptoms such as fatigue, body aches, obesity and heart palpitations.

These are stressful times for all of us and coupled with our day-to-day stressors, we can easily become affected by stressful symptoms.

When you  have a gazillion things on your to-do-list, you’re overwhelmed by the demands on your time, and can’t take a minute just for yourself,  your body will respond to these stressors as though you are in danger. Your heart rate increases, your breathing becomes faster, and you get a sudden burst of energy. This is known as the fight-or-flight response.  This response is fine if you are in actually in danger.  But, just imagine feeling this way several times a day for days on end.

Consider traffic jams, deadlines, eating on the run, bills to pay, job changes, family and community obligations, endless chores and errands, and demands and more demands on your time, and energy.  That’s the reality for most of us, most days.

How  would you feel if you could take care of everything you have to do and still carve out some time for self-care?

You don’t have to let stress rule your life.

In the next post, I’ll share with you the four areas of your life where stress takes a serious toll.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.

The Effects of Stress and How it Shows Up in Your Life – Part 2

Woman afraidI know you hear a lot about stress but unless you get a grip on stress, stress will get a grip on you and won’t let go.

The second article in this series is meant to give you concrete examples of how stress shows up in your life.

I’m sure you have either experienced or know someone who seems prone to accidents, often gets burned while cooking,  is always tired or gets frequent colds during the winter.  It’s not that you or anyone else is unlucky, unhealthy, clumsy or unfocused.  These are all early warning signs leading to stress overload.

Let’s take a look at the effects stress has on your body.

Physical Stress – Do you often complain of a headache or wake up tired?  Here are some signs of physical stress:

  • Frequent headaches
  • Insomnia
  • Stomach, neck and shoulder pains
  • Frequent colds
  • Excessive tiredness

Watch for frequent colds, pain or excessive tiredness, all which can indicate that your stress level is rising.

Mental Stress – Symptoms of mental stressors may show up as;

  • Confusion
  • Poor concentration
  • Boredom and a negative attitude.

Forgetting to turn off a light is a lot different from not remembering something as important as a doctor’s appointment you have had for months.  Not being able to concentrate on something that you have no interest in is not the same as frequently losing your train of thought while reading your favorite magazine.

Emotional Stress – Lately, have you noticed that you snap at your children, partner, and co-workers more so than usual. Do you find yourself making remarks that you can’t believe poured from your mouth?  Watch for these signs of emotional stress:

  • Irritablility
  • Overly sensitive
  • Impatience
  • Angry
  • Frustration  and Excessive Worry

Stress is most likely the culprit and is  effecting your emotional state. Ask yourself, “what’s going on in my life that is influencing how I feel?  Is it my work, home life, children, family members?”

Emotional stress effects not only your well being but also the people around you who depend on you.

Social Stress –   You’re declining more and more invitations to engage with family and friends.  You would rather just stay home and watch TV.  You just don’t want to be bothered and would rather be just left alone.

  • Isolation
  • Avoidance
  • Lowered sex drive
  • Nagging

Read the final article to learn how you can keep stress at bay.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.

How You Can Get a New Lease on Your Stressful Life – Part 3

stressed womanStress leads to strokes, high blood pressure, obesity, and a host of other serious illnesses.  Did I get your attention?  Stress is not to be taken lightly.  But the good news is, you can do something about it.

Now that you are aware of the toll stress takes on your body and how to recognize stressful symptoms, here are some ways to help you get a better handle on  stress:.

  • Try new ways of thinking – Change the way you think and the things you think about will change.
  • Work on releasing anger, frustration and worry. Worrying about tomorrow or yesterday wastes precious energy that could best be used to tackle the things you can change
  • Learn to say “no”.  A sure way to add stress to your life is to fear saying no. Saying no sets and maintains health boundaries. Learn to say no and mean it.
  • Manage your time wisely.  Keeping to a schedule will allow you to get more done with less stress.  Only commit to the things you are confident you can accomplish within your time frame. Set consistent boundaries around your time. Do the things that are most important to you first and schedule others for later
  • Take good care of yourself.  Get plenty of rest, exercise and eat well.  A healthy body makes a healthy mind!  Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.  It helps to have a strong system of support but if you don’t, there are professionals who are available to assist you in managing stress.
  • Set and maintain healthy boundaries – Establishing firm, consistent limits on your time, energy and resources lowers your stress level.  Don’t take on more than you can reasonably accomplish.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.  It helps to have a strong system of support but if you don’t, there are professionals who are available to assist you in managing your stress level.

How do you handle stress? Share your stress tips with us over in the Self Care Circle



Gladys Anderson, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, author and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping couples and individuals to revive the love, passion, respect and fun that’s been missing from their relationships.