Take Charge of Your Life: Are You the Pilot or Passenger?

Are you the pilot or the passenger in your life?

A pilot is in charge of the instrumentation that paves the way for a smooth, safe journey. In other words, the pilot makes the decisions about how and when to react in unpredictable situations. She follows a specific flight pattern to get you safely to your destination. On the other hand, as a passenger, you simply take a backseat, turn the control over to the pilot and wait to be delivered to your destination.

I’m sure a lot of you can agree that most of our behaviors, habits, decisions and responses stem from complex invisible patterns and experiences we’ve had within our families and society.

And those experiences sometimes creates a false sense of who we really are. We become the passenger and not the pilot in our own lives.

We continue to allow these familial beliefs, rituals and faulty messages to derail our dreams and prevent us from living joyful lives.

Are You the Pilot or Passenger?

Are You the Pilot or Passenger?

In life when we sit back and allow someone else to take charge of where we are going, it can mean we end up somewhere other than where we intended.

When we’re faced with turbulence in our life, do we take control and decide the best course of action or do we blindly wait for others to direct us and make the decision whether it’s safe or risky to forge ahead?

I would love to hear if you are the pilot or passenger in your life. Please feel free to share your comments with us.taktt

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Top 3 Things You Can Do To Take Control of Your Life

There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can’t control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them:

1) Let Go of Expectations
Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else’s. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with havoc, frustration and anxiety.

2) Know the Difference Between  Self-Confidence and Controlling.
Confidence means that you believe in your ability to set consistent limits, priorities and realistic expectations for yourself and others. To control means that you wish to manage the actions of others and/or the outcome of things around you. Remember, the only person you have any control over is YOU. As your confidence level grows, it will enable you to let go of outcomes of things that you have no control over in life.

3) Coach people how you want to be treated
A crucial step in having more control over your life is the ability to teach others how you wish to be treated. You don’t have any control over others’ actions; however, you do have control over how you “allow” others to treat you. If you find yourself constantly stressed by the things you allow other people to bring into your life, you may want to begin asking yourself, “is it worth having these people or things in my life any longer?” Make yourself a priority and you will find that others will treat you with the respect you deserve. Remember, no one can walk over you unless you willingly lie down.

Keeping these tips in mind will ensure that you stay focused and in control of you!

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author

Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.